How to Cope with the Fast Pace of Life?
Dear Friends,
Question 1: Have you ever felt lost with so much information flooding into the World everyday and you just can’t seem to learn all the things you want? (Response is within this article)
Question 2: Have you ever wondered why even after doing so many things each day, you felt like you’ve not done enough? (Response is within this article)
Question 3: Have you ever complained about life being not fair? (Response is within this article)
Question 4: Did it occur to you that Time went by too fast and you couldn’t have enough of it? (Response is within this article)
Question 5: Are people not giving you the recognition you deserve—Expecting a reward for the good things you have done but never seem to get it? (Response is within this article)
Do you think that in reality, when you’ve done a good job, you could expect a good reward? I wish it’s true. Sadly, it seems we’ve found that doing a good job does not entitle us to a good reward or even guarantee us a reward. However, doing a bad job almost definitely meant we would be facing the music (getting punished)! That’s because doing a good job is expected from us, thus there’s nothing special about us if we’ve done a good job. (Just to lighten the mood: Some of us are sometimes hard to please, they become suspicious when others praise them… thinking that people probably didn’t think highly of them or expected them to be stupid that’s why when they’ve done something right, they’re receiving the praises! Well, I believe smart people like you and I know we’re not those people—we’re not so suspicious, right?)
Anyway, I’ve learnt from the international success coach, Anthony Robbins, that those who did a good job probably gets a reward, those who did an excellent job maybe gets a good reward, however, those who did an outstanding job gets all the rewards! So, how do you even start getting yourselves ready to do an outstanding job?.. Well, first, you’ll need to know what you’re good at or inclined to be good at. How about asking yourself what would you like to be good at? A skill, knowledge or ability, something that you wish you could understand more or which you know because of your interest, you would be able to learn faster and once understood, be your asset which could propel you to greater heights? Find out by asking yourself what is something you like doing and could earn you a living as you enjoy doing it. Try to think of something realistic to support yourself (pay the bills) first while planning to enjoy doing what you like, and still earn from it, at a later time.
My Response to the First Question is that it’s impossible for you to learn all the things you want unless you’ve either got a small appetite for the things you want to learn or you’ve a super memory to learn and remember all the things you want! So generally, you should first learn what you need and things that are required of you and not try to learn everything. In that way, you would free up time which you could allocate for important things like resting/maintenance (i.e. taking care of yourself is important if you want to live a long and healthy life) and organizing yourself which includes planning your day and life. Well, there’s this expression that says, “A Plan without Action is a Daydream; Actions without a Plan is a Nightmare!” It’s better for us to have an action that is planned for or at least thought of its consequences.
My Response to Question Two: Doing many things that does not fulfill your needs or what’s required of you would result in you feeling that you’ve not done enough even though you’ve done a lot. Because, it’s not in the quantity of things you do, but in the quality or necessary actions you need to take in order for you to complete what’s required of you. (Getting yourself busy all the time does not mean you are on the path to getting the right things done) So find out what’s important to you and give it priority so that you could get to the point and do what’s important first 
[According to Anthony Robbins, everyone has to meet their 6 Human Needs in order to attain Fulfillment in their lives. The 6 Human Needs are: Certainty, Uncertainty/Variety, Significance, Love/Connection, Growth, and Contribution. This would be discussed in more details by mid of March 2008]
My Response to Question Three: There’s only one thing that’s fair in life: Time waits for no man and it passes by at the same speed for everyone. If somehow you felt there is a difference in how fast time flies between people, then you should realize that it’s all in your feelings or emotions! Hence, our reaction to time is dictated by how we feel. Although we can’t actually control the pace of time, it’s good to know we can control our emotions towards the passing of time So try to learn how to plan your life wisely so that you would be happy all the time and time would pass by easily as you’re enjoying yourself (Try to think positive and believe you could achieve this in time ).
My Response to Question Four: We only have 24 hours a day, so if we plan to do everything by ourselves, then we’ve planned to fail! There’s this thing called delegation. Try to do things which you’re best at and delegate the rest to those who could do them better. If you’re thinking how could you do that when your job does not allow you to do so, then you’re either working alone or you should start learning about how you could maximize your productivity by engaging the assistance of your colleagues with some interpersonal relationship skills. Generally, try to find a way to be able to excel in what you do best so that you could be effective, efficient and productive. It may not be accomplished within a day, but it’s definitely worthwhile putting it in your plan and working towards it so that you’ll be motivated by knowing you’re on your way to a more rewarding working environment
My Response to Question Five: Don’t wait for people to show you your recognition by waiting for them to give you a reward for your accomplishments… plan to give yourself a reward when you’ve completed a goal or project so that you’ll always know you’re going to receive a reward for your efforts even if no one else remembers (guess you won’t forget it yourself!) and of course, remember to reward someone who have helped you (remember, you should try to do for others what you would like them to do for you. Our world is like a mirror—don’t wait for your reflections to show you what you want to see, do what you want to see and let your reflections follow).
Something to think about:
Item #1: Some people make things happen, some watch things happen, while others wonder what has happened-Proverb (It maybe alright to watch things happen, but let’s not allow ourselves to always wonder what has happened—by being aware of our surroundings)
Item #2: Stop trying to fit in when you were born to stand out-Anonymous (Have you ever wondered if you couldn’t fit in to your current situation, there might be a possibility you’re actually born to stand out? Think about it,
Item #3:
(A) Don’t know what you don’t know (Worst—don’t know your limits!—blur man!)
(B) Don’t know what you know (Bad—don’t know your capabilities—under achieving man)
(C) Know what you don’t know (Good—know your limits—clever man)
(D) Know what you know (Excellent—know your capabilities—intelligent man)
(C) + (D) = Outstanding—Wise man
Oh mercy, it’s almost 6.00am!… Time for Breakfast.. haha.. Well, Thanks for reading, I truly appreciate your support. Please feel free to give your comments at tan.moneyonline@gmail.com
